This is an attempt at optimizing service startup.

The effect is most pronounced when many services are restarted one by one.
The systemd service manager role sometimes does this - for example when `just install-service synapse` runs.
In such cases, a 5-second delay for each Synapse worker service
(or other bridge/bot service that waits on the homeserver) quickly adds up to a lot.

When services are all stopped fully and then started, the effect is not so pronounced, because
`matrix-synapse.service` starts first and pulls all worker services (defined as `Wants=` for it).
Later on, when the systemd service manager role "starts" these worker services, they're started already.
Even if they had a 5-second wait each, it would have happened in parallel.

Related to e5130372b9.

Depending on the `options` that people provide, this may break
compatibility.

This paves the way for installing other roles into `roles/galaxy` using `ansible-galaxy`,
similar to how it's done in:

- https://github.com/spantaleev/gitea-docker-ansible-deploy
- https://github.com/spantaleev/nextcloud-docker-ansible-deploy

In the near future, we'll be removing a lot of the shared role code from here
and using upstream roles for it. Some of the core `matrix-*` roles have
already been extracted out into other reusable roles:

- https://github.com/devture/com.devture.ansible.role.postgres
- https://github.com/devture/com.devture.ansible.role.systemd_docker_base
- https://github.com/devture/com.devture.ansible.role.timesync
- https://github.com/devture/com.devture.ansible.role.vars_preserver
- https://github.com/devture/com.devture.ansible.role.playbook_runtime_messages
- https://github.com/devture/com.devture.ansible.role.playbook_help

We just need to migrate to those.

* appservice: add and use matrix_homeserver_* vars

* appservice: use the new vars

* Apply suggestions from code review

Co-authored-by: Slavi Pantaleev <slavi@devture.com>

Co-authored-by: Slavi Pantaleev <slavi@devture.com>

Move the `matrix_dendrite_process_extra_arguments` line up so it doesn't get lost, and add a trailing backslash

People often report and ask about these "failures".
More-so previously, when the `docker kill/rm` output was collected,
but it still happens now when people do `systemctl status
matrix-something` and notice that it says "FAILURE".

Suppressing to avoid further time being wasted on saying "this is
expected".

Reverts b1b4ba501fdfaa, 90c9801c560b6, a3c84f78ca9c65a, ..

I haven't really traced it (yet), but on some servers, I'm observing
`ansible-playbook ... --tags=start` completing very slowly, waiting
to stop services. I can't reproduce this on all Matrix servers I manage.
I suspect that either the systemd version is to blame or that some
specific service is not responding well to some `docker kill/rm` command.

`ExecStop` seems to work great in all cases and it's what we've been
using for a very long time, so I'm reverting to that.

This is the equivalent of b1b4ba501f for the matrix-dendrite role.

This brings matrix-dendrite.service in line with all the other services.

All the `matrix_s3_*` stuff happens in the `matrix-synapse` role.

If we are to have such S3 support for Dendrite, we should probably
extract it out of the `matrix-synapse` role (into a `matrix-s3` role or
`matrix-goofys`, etc.) and wire `matrix-dendrite` accordingly.

This may or may not be done in the future though. For now, I'm
cleaning things up in the `matrix-dendrite` role.

We refrain from logging to files for all components,
because we rely on systemd-journald anyway.