- Allow customising the IP where lookups take place
- Reload DNS after all containers are started

- Add matrix.target
- Fix improper use of `docker kill`

This reverts commit fd3d48bb6d.

Normally this environment variable gets referred to from `settings.json.docker`,
but we have our own full configuration, which hardcodes `"trustProxy": true`,
thus making this useless.

This has been pointed out here:
fd3d48bb6d (commitcomment-47403097)

The official Etherpad Docker image has no support for sqlite3 databases.

don't bind to any host port if nginx_proxy is used
only bind to localhost if it's not used

The default scalar.vector.im integrations manager doesn't support custom
URL's for etherpad, therefore Dimension needs to be enabled.