Reverts b1b4ba501fdfaa, 90c9801c560b6, a3c84f78ca9c65a, ..

I haven't really traced it (yet), but on some servers, I'm observing
`ansible-playbook ... --tags=start` completing very slowly, waiting
to stop services. I can't reproduce this on all Matrix servers I manage.
I suspect that either the systemd version is to blame or that some
specific service is not responding well to some `docker kill/rm` command.

`ExecStop` seems to work great in all cases and it's what we've been
using for a very long time, so I'm reverting to that.

ExecStopPost should allow us to clean up (docker kill + docker rm)
even if the ExecStart (docker run ..) command failed, and not just after
a graceful service stop was initiated.

Source: https://www.freedesktop.org/software/systemd/man/systemd.service.html#ExecStopPost=

These are just defensive cleanup tasks that we run.
In the good case, there's nothing to kill or remove, so they trigger an
error like this:

> Error response from daemon: Cannot kill container: something: No such container: something

and:

> Error: No such container: something

People often ask us if this is a problem, so instead of always having to
answer with "no, this is to be expected", we'd rather eliminate it now
and make logs cleaner.

In the event that:
- a container is really stuck and needs cleanup using kill/rm
- and cleanup fails, and we fail to report it because of error
suppression (`2>/dev/null`)

.. we'd still get an error when launching ("container name already in use .."),
so it shouldn't be too hard to investigate.

We log everything in systemd/journald for every service already,
so there's no need for double-logging, bridges rotating log files
manually and other such nonsense.

> WARNING: Error loading config file: .dockercfg: $HOME is not defined

.. which appeared in Docker 20.10.

If a service is enabled, a database for it is created in postgres with a uniqque password. The service can then use this database for data storage instead of relying on sqlite.

The Docker 19.04 -> 20.10 upgrade contains the following change
in `/usr/lib/systemd/system/docker.service`:

```
-BindsTo=containerd.service
-After=network-online.target firewalld.service containerd.service
+After=network-online.target firewalld.service containerd.service multi-user.target
-Requires=docker.socket
+Requires=docker.socket containerd.service
Wants=network-online.target
```

The `multi-user.target` requirement in `After` seems to be in conflict
with our `WantedBy=multi-user.target` and `After=docker.service` /
`Requires=docker.service` definitions, causing the following error on
startup for all of our systemd services:

> Job matrix-synapse.service/start deleted to break ordering cycle starting with multi-user.target/start

A workaround which appears to work is to add `DefaultDependencies=no`
to all of our services.