Reverts b1b4ba501fdfaa, 90c9801c560b6, a3c84f78ca9c65a, ..

I haven't really traced it (yet), but on some servers, I'm observing
`ansible-playbook ... --tags=start` completing very slowly, waiting
to stop services. I can't reproduce this on all Matrix servers I manage.
I suspect that either the systemd version is to blame or that some
specific service is not responding well to some `docker kill/rm` command.

`ExecStop` seems to work great in all cases and it's what we've been
using for a very long time, so I'm reverting to that.

ExecStopPost should allow us to clean up (docker kill + docker rm)
even if the ExecStart (docker run ..) command failed, and not just after
a graceful service stop was initiated.

Source: https://www.freedesktop.org/software/systemd/man/systemd.service.html#ExecStopPost=

Until now, we were leaving services "enabled"
(symlinks in /etc/systemd/system/multi-user.target.wants/).

We clean these up now. Broken symlinks may still exist in older
installations that enabled/disabled services. We're not taking care
to fix these up. It's just a cosmetic defect anyway.

This commit introduces a new role that downloads and installs the
prometheus community postgres exporter  https://github.com/prometheus-community/postgres_exporter.
A new credential is added to matrix_postgres_additional_databases that
allows the exporter access to the database to gather statistics.
A new dashboard was added to the grafana role, with some refactoring
to enable the dashboard only if the new role is enabled.
I've included some basic instructions for how to enable the role in
the Docs section.

In terms of testing, I've tested enabling the role, and disabling
it to make sure it cleans up the container and systemd role.