This is backward-compatible with what we had before. We're not changing
the SSL mode - just making it configurable.

Most components are defaulting to `sslmode=disable`, while some
(`matrix-bot-matrix-reminder-bot` and others) do not specify an `sslmode` at all.

We're making sslmode configurable, because certain external Postgres
servers may be configured to require SSL encryption.
In such cases `sslmode=disable` does not work and needs to be changed to
`sslmode=require` or something else (`verify-ca`, `verify-full`, etc).

* one var to control encryption across all bridges

* move var to matrix-base