Related to https://github.com/spantaleev/matrix-docker-ansible-deploy/issues/4445

`-t` works on both old and new Docker versions, so it's best to use that.

This is an attempt at optimizing service startup.

The effect is most pronounced when many services are restarted one by one.
The systemd service manager role sometimes does this - for example when `just install-service synapse` runs.
In such cases, a 5-second delay for each Synapse worker service
(or other bridge/bot service that waits on the homeserver) quickly adds up to a lot.

When services are all stopped fully and then started, the effect is not so pronounced, because
`matrix-synapse.service` starts first and pulls all worker services (defined as `Wants=` for it).
Later on, when the systemd service manager role "starts" these worker services, they're started already.
Even if they had a 5-second wait each, it would have happened in parallel.

Related to e5130372b9.

Depending on the `options` that people provide, this may break
compatibility.

This paves the way for installing other roles into `roles/galaxy` using `ansible-galaxy`,
similar to how it's done in:

- https://github.com/spantaleev/gitea-docker-ansible-deploy
- https://github.com/spantaleev/nextcloud-docker-ansible-deploy

In the near future, we'll be removing a lot of the shared role code from here
and using upstream roles for it. Some of the core `matrix-*` roles have
already been extracted out into other reusable roles:

- https://github.com/devture/com.devture.ansible.role.postgres
- https://github.com/devture/com.devture.ansible.role.systemd_docker_base
- https://github.com/devture/com.devture.ansible.role.timesync
- https://github.com/devture/com.devture.ansible.role.vars_preserver
- https://github.com/devture/com.devture.ansible.role.playbook_runtime_messages
- https://github.com/devture/com.devture.ansible.role.playbook_help

We just need to migrate to those.

* appservice: add and use matrix_homeserver_* vars

* appservice: use the new vars

* Apply suggestions from code review

Co-authored-by: Slavi Pantaleev <slavi@devture.com>

Co-authored-by: Slavi Pantaleev <slavi@devture.com>

Move the `matrix_dendrite_process_extra_arguments` line up so it doesn't get lost, and add a trailing backslash

People often report and ask about these "failures".
More-so previously, when the `docker kill/rm` output was collected,
but it still happens now when people do `systemctl status
matrix-something` and notice that it says "FAILURE".

Suppressing to avoid further time being wasted on saying "this is
expected".

Reverts b1b4ba501fdfaa, 90c9801c560b6, a3c84f78ca9c65a, ..

I haven't really traced it (yet), but on some servers, I'm observing
`ansible-playbook ... --tags=start` completing very slowly, waiting
to stop services. I can't reproduce this on all Matrix servers I manage.
I suspect that either the systemd version is to blame or that some
specific service is not responding well to some `docker kill/rm` command.

`ExecStop` seems to work great in all cases and it's what we've been
using for a very long time, so I'm reverting to that.

This is the equivalent of b1b4ba501f for the matrix-dendrite role.

This brings matrix-dendrite.service in line with all the other services.

All the `matrix_s3_*` stuff happens in the `matrix-synapse` role.

If we are to have such S3 support for Dendrite, we should probably
extract it out of the `matrix-synapse` role (into a `matrix-s3` role or
`matrix-goofys`, etc.) and wire `matrix-dendrite` accordingly.

This may or may not be done in the future though. For now, I'm
cleaning things up in the `matrix-dendrite` role.

We refrain from logging to files for all components,
because we rely on systemd-journald anyway.