Reverts b1b4ba501fdfaa, 90c9801c560b6, a3c84f78ca9c65a, ..

I haven't really traced it (yet), but on some servers, I'm observing
`ansible-playbook ... --tags=start` completing very slowly, waiting
to stop services. I can't reproduce this on all Matrix servers I manage.
I suspect that either the systemd version is to blame or that some
specific service is not responding well to some `docker kill/rm` command.

`ExecStop` seems to work great in all cases and it's what we've been
using for a very long time, so I'm reverting to that.

ExecStopPost should allow us to clean up (docker kill + docker rm)
even if the ExecStart (docker run ..) command failed, and not just after
a graceful service stop was initiated.

Source: https://www.freedesktop.org/software/systemd/man/systemd.service.html#ExecStopPost=

- add matrix_postgres_backup_databases to be build on top of matrix_postgres_additional_databases
- POSTGRES_DB is now directly set from matrix_postgres_backup_databases while building the templates/env-postgres-backup.j2

- adjusted env-postgres-backup.j2 to use the new role specific variables