looks like newer version is required for synapse 1.96.1

Fixes https://github.com/spantaleev/matrix-docker-ansible-deploy/issues/2918

Related to https://github.com/matrix-org/synapse/pull/15488

Many of these do depend on the Synapse master process (`matrix-synapse.service`),
so it makes sense to do it.

Furthermore, we're doing it so that one can stop the `matrix-synapse.service`
service and have systemd cascade this into stopping all the workers as well.

This is useful for easily stopping all of Synapse, so that Postgres
upgrades (`--tags=upgrade-postgres`) can happen cleanly.
Postgres upgrades currently stop `devture_postgres_systemd_services_to_stop_for_maintenance_list` which
includes Synapse, but stopping just the master process and leaving workers running is not safe enough and sometimes leads to errors like:

> ERROR:  insert or update on table "event_forward_extremities" violates foreign key constraint "event_forward_extremities_event_id"

With this dependency in place, stopping `matrix-synapse.service` will stop all Synapse processes.

Related to https://github.com/matrix-org/synapse/pull/16265

Signed-off-by: saces <saces@c-base.org>

Signed-off-by: saces <saces@c-base.org>

Hopefully fixes https://github.com/spantaleev/matrix-docker-ansible-deploy/issues/2849

Related to:
- https://github.com/matrix-org/synapse/issues/16101
- https://github.com/matrix-org/synapse/issues/16208

matrix-synapse/tasks/setup_uninstall.yml would previously not run unless
Synapse was completely disabled.

`spam_checker` has been deprecated for quite a while.
While it still probably works and while newer versions of
mjolnir-antispam still use it, we should switch to the new API.

Co-authored-by: Slavi Pantaleev <slavi@devture.com>

Related to:
- e4f545c452
- 2481b7dfa4

We've prepared for this by adding the `main` process to the `instance_map` a long time ago,
in 49cb8b7b11.

Related to 0f02f0b4da

Co-authored-by: Slavi Pantaleev <slavi@devture.com>