Fixes https://github.com/spantaleev/matrix-docker-ansible-deploy/issues/683

Mostly affects people who disable the integrated `matrix-nginx-proxy`.

Related to https://github.com/spantaleev/matrix-docker-ansible-deploy/pull/456
and more specifically 4d62a75f6f.

People who were disabling matrix-nginx-proxy (in favor of their own
nginx webserver) and also overriding `matrix_federation_public_port`,
found that the generated nginx configuration still hardcoded `8448`,
which forced their nginx server to use that, regardless of the fact
that `matrix_federation_public_port` was pointing elsewhere.

We now allow for the in-container federation port to be configurable,
and also automatically wire things properly.

Related to: https://matrix.org/blog/2021/02/18/synapse-1-27-0-released#dropping-armv7-docker-images

The official Etherpad Docker image has no support for sqlite3 databases.

don't bind to any host port if nginx_proxy is used
only bind to localhost if it's not used

.. and other documentation improvements.

Also includes the dashboards for Synapse and for Node Exporter.

Again has only been tested on debian amd64 so far, but the grafana docker image is available for arm64 and arm32. Nice.

Basic system stats, to show stuff the synapse metrics
can't show such as resource usage by bridges, etc

Seems to work fine as well.

This too has only been tested on debian amd64 so far

Initial attempt. Seems to work fine.

Only tested on debian amd64 so far

I felt that adding another variable was probably going to be the easiest way to do this. I may end up adding another variable to enable this feature, for consistency with some of the other things.

We do this by creating one more layer of indirection.

First we reach some generic vhost handling matrix.DOMAIN.
A bunch of override rules are added there (capturing traffic to send to
ma1sd, etc). nginx-status and similar generic things also live there.

We then proxy to the homeserver on some other vhost (only Synapse being
available right now, but repointing this to Dendrite or other will be
possible in the future).
Then that homeserver-specific vhost does its thing to proxy to the
homeserver. It may or may not use workers, etc.

Without matrix-corporal, the flow is now:
1. matrix.DOMAIN (matrix-nginx-proxy/matrix-domain.conf)
2. matrix-nginx-proxy/matrix-synapse.conf
3. matrix-synapse

With matrix-corporal enabled, it becomes:
1. matrix.DOMAIN (matrix-nginx-proxy/matrix-domain.conf)
2. matrix-corporal
3. matrix-nginx-proxy/matrix-synapse.conf
4. matrix-synapse

(matrix-corporal gets injected at step 2).

There was a `matrix_nginx_proxy_enabled|default(False)` check, but:
- it didn't seem to work reliably for some reason (hmm)
- referring to a `matrix_nginx_proxy_*` variable from within the
  `matrix-synapse` role is not ideal
- exposing always happened on `127.0.0.1`, which may not be good enough
  for some rarer setups (where the own webserver is external to the host)

I guess it didn't hurt to do it until now, but it's not great serving
federation APIs on the client-server API port, etc.

matrix-corporal doesn't work yet (still something to be solved in the
future), but its firewalling operations will also be sabotaged
by Client-Server APIs being served on the federation port (it's a way to get around its firewalling).

In short, this makes Synapse a 2nd class citizen,
preparing for a future where it's just one-of-many homeserver software
options.

We also no longer have a default Postgres superuser password,
which improves security.

The changelog explains more as to why this was done
and how to proceed from here.

I had intentionally held it back in 39ea3496a4
until:
- it received more testing (there were a few bugs during the
migration, but now it seems OK)
- this migration guide was written

Fixes https://github.com/spantaleev/matrix-docker-ansible-deploy/pull/793

That bridge only supports its own file-based database,
so preparing a Postgres database for it is pointless.

The answer to these is: it's good to have them in both places.
The role defines the obvious things it depends on (not knowing
what setup it will find itself into), and then
`group_vars/matrix_servers` "extends" it based on everything else it
knows (the homeserver being Synapse, whether or not the internal
Postgres server is being used, etc.)

Otherwise the postgres upgrade fails with the following error:

Unexpected templating type error occurred on ({{
  [matrix_postgres_connection_username]
  +
  matrix_postgres_additional_databases|map(attribute='username')
}}
): can only concatenate list (not "generator") to list

Some Ansible installations choke on it, it seems.
Similar to 9f00970c90

We've hit this problem before as well. Certain Ansible installations
choke on it.

We were only defining this in `group_vars/matrix_servers`, which is
inconsistent with how we normally do things.