Until now, we were leaving services "enabled"
(symlinks in /etc/systemd/system/multi-user.target.wants/).

We clean these up now. Broken symlinks may still exist in older
installations that enabled/disabled services. We're not taking care
to fix these up. It's just a cosmetic defect anyway.

This commit introduces a new role that downloads and installs the
prometheus community postgres exporter  https://github.com/prometheus-community/postgres_exporter.
A new credential is added to matrix_postgres_additional_databases that
allows the exporter access to the database to gather statistics.
A new dashboard was added to the grafana role, with some refactoring
to enable the dashboard only if the new role is enabled.
I've included some basic instructions for how to enable the role in
the Docs section.

In terms of testing, I've tested enabling the role, and disabling
it to make sure it cleans up the container and systemd role.

Same reasoning as in 1cd251ed78

Also includes the dashboards for Synapse and for Node Exporter.

Again has only been tested on debian amd64 so far, but the grafana docker image is available for arm64 and arm32. Nice.