* appservice: add and use matrix_homeserver_* vars

* appservice: use the new vars

* Apply suggestions from code review

Co-authored-by: Slavi Pantaleev <slavi@devture.com>

Co-authored-by: Slavi Pantaleev <slavi@devture.com>

Reverts b1b4ba501fdfaa, 90c9801c560b6, a3c84f78ca9c65a, ..

I haven't really traced it (yet), but on some servers, I'm observing
`ansible-playbook ... --tags=start` completing very slowly, waiting
to stop services. I can't reproduce this on all Matrix servers I manage.
I suspect that either the systemd version is to blame or that some
specific service is not responding well to some `docker kill/rm` command.

`ExecStop` seems to work great in all cases and it's what we've been
using for a very long time, so I'm reverting to that.

ExecStopPost should allow us to clean up (docker kill + docker rm)
even if the ExecStart (docker run ..) command failed, and not just after
a graceful service stop was initiated.

Source: https://www.freedesktop.org/software/systemd/man/systemd.service.html#ExecStopPost=

We had to remove UID/GID environment variables that we used to pass
to the Synapse container, because it was causing a problem after
https://github.com/matrix-org/synapse/pull/11209

We were using both `--user` and UID/GID environment variables until now.

Fixes a regression caused by a5ee39266c.

If the user id and group id were different than 991:991
(which used to be a hardcoded default for us long ago),
there was a mismatch between what Synapse was trying to use (991:991)
and what it was actually started with (in `--user=..`). It was then
trying to change ownership, which was failing.

This was mostly affecting newer installations which were not using the
991:991 defaults we had long ago (since a1c5a197a9).

This allows us to benefit from helpful things it does for us,
like enabling jemalloc: https://github.com/matrix-org/synapse/pull/8553

We weren't going through `start.py` before, because it was causing some
conflict with our `docker run --user=...` stuff, but it doesn't seem
to be a problem anymore.

Having done this, we won't need to do things like
https://github.com/spantaleev/matrix-docker-ansible-deploy/pull/941
anymore.

Related to https://github.com/spantaleev/matrix-docker-ansible-deploy/pull/456

This switches the `docker exec` method of spawning
Synapse workers inside the `matrix-synapse` container with
dedicated containers for each worker.

We also have dedicated systemd services for each worker,
so this are now:
- more consistent with everything else (we don't use systemd
instantiated services anywhere)
- we don't need the "parse systemd instance name into worker name +
port" part
- we don't need to keep track of PIDs manually
- we don't need jq (less depenendencies)
- workers dying would be restarted by systemd correctly, like any other
service
- `docker ps` shows each worker separately and we can observe resource
usage