* appservice: add and use matrix_homeserver_* vars

* appservice: use the new vars

* Apply suggestions from code review

Co-authored-by: Slavi Pantaleev <slavi@devture.com>

Co-authored-by: Slavi Pantaleev <slavi@devture.com>

Related to https://github.com/spantaleev/matrix-docker-ansible-deploy/pull/1939

Details here: https://docs.ansible.com/ansible/devel/porting_guides/porting_guide_6.html#id36

Basically:

```yaml
- name: Prior to 2.13
  debug:
    msg: '[1] + {{ [2] }}'

- name: 2.13 and forward
  debug:
    msg: '{{ [1] + [2] }}'
```

Interestingly, we had been using the new/safe syntax in lofs of places.

We were using the broken one in many others though. Hopefully all
instances were fixed by this patch.

`matrix_nginx_proxy_enabled` is usually set to false by users, this is when
the warning should be displayed.

Related to https://github.com/spantaleev/matrix-docker-ansible-deploy/pull/1108

Fixes https://github.com/spantaleev/matrix-docker-ansible-deploy/issues/1070

Related discussion here: 1ab507349c (commitcomment-51108407)

We'll be adding `.timer` units later on, so it's good to be
more explicit.

Signed-off-by: Tulir Asokan <tulir@maunium.net>