Add more database config options and other cleanup

Update configuring-playbook-bridge-mautrix-facebook.md

Logging in from the IP address is no longer always enough, but 2FA seems to work eventually

add missing retry to the apache docker image pull

fix typo

update bridges defaults

expose prometheus process args

Co-authored-by: Slavi Pantaleev <slavi@devture.com>

Update Grafana (8.5.3 -> 9.0.1)

Update Prometheus (v2.33.3 -> v2.36.2)

This shall indicate that the public url of maubot is here configured the same as matrix_server_fqn_matrix but this must not be the case.
In the config I used the matrix fqnd directly as this part of the config is directly bound to the homeserver we want to connect to (but can not use the internal)